One of the biggest challenges in the boundary setting process is what do to when someone doesn’t respect your boundaries. People often believe that you have to be able to “make” someone do or not do something in order to be successful. In fact, it is more common than not to have struggles with boundary setting on the front end, especially in relationships that have historically had porous boundaries or none at all. When these difficulties take place, know what you have options. This blog will help you to understand those options and empower you to stick with it.

This blog will help you to understand some of the most common reasons for finding oneself in an unhealthy relationship, as well as ways to move in the direction of something more healthy. Awareness is the first step to any process of change, growth, and healing.

Unfortunately, sexism is not just something that is exerted from men to women, and can be even more insidious when it takes place woman-to-woman. All of us are navigating living in a patriarchy, no matter how we identify our gender. People within any oppressive structure can find ways to use that structure to their advantage, whether they fall at the top of the hierarchy, at the bottom, or somewhere in between.

This blog will flesh out each of the components of the power and control wheel. These elements can take shape on a spectrum of severity. Even if you recognize just one of these elements in your own relationship, it is important to take stock and address it. Nobody should have to put up with abuse. You can take your power back.

Setting effective boundaries involves four basic steps: 1.) Name what’s happening, 2.) Share the effect, 3.) Set your boundary, 4,) Tell your story. Learn this step-by-step method for setting clear, simple boundaries that actually work.

Being a good listener is an essential skill for building and maintaining healthy, nourishing relationships. This blog shares some of the skills that I use every day as a therapist to help my clients feel seen and heard, and which are easily applicable to real life.

When you first start setting boundaries, it can be helpful to know what to expect internally and externally so you’re prepared when it happens. This blog lays out some of the most common experiences that people have when they start setting boundaries for the first time, as well as some approaches for how to deal with it.

Secure attachment is essential to healthy relationships. This blog lays out the three most important elements to building secure attachment, both for children and adults. These are - attunement, containment, and rupture followed by repair.

Relationships can be tricky, and it can be hard to know how to manage it when things get complicated. These three mantras for healthy boundaries in relationships help you to keep it simple and come back to basics when you’re feeling overwhelmed.

Being “nice” is highly valued in our culture, especially for women. However, being nice can conflict with being kind when being nice means being dishonest, inauthentic, hurting ourselves, or violating boundaries. This blog helps readers to understand the difference between being kind and being nice, and why that difference is so important.

Sometimes it can be hard to recognize when we’re involved in a dynamic that’s unhealthy, especially if it’s been going on for a long time. This blog lays out some of the telltale signs that a relationship is unhealthy, and provides guidance on what to do if you have unhealthy relationships in your life.